What is love & how to recognise it.

27.02.2026
Many people spend(waist) a lot of time in relationships with people who say that they love them, but their behaviour doesn't show it, whitch often becomes a very painful place to be in. 

In some cases the inability to recognize love becomes a tool for manipulation.
Therefore it´ s important to recognize what love looks like.

When someone truly loves you they take you as a part of themselves. They concider your needs, wants, emotions etc. in the same way and with the same level of care and importance as they concider their own.
Therefore when someone really loves you, they become concerned / worried about hurting you and therefore they try to prevent it. Whereas when someone just likes what you do for them, or how you make them feel, there only concern / worry is you leaving them. 


That being said it´ s also important to keep in mind that people can love you only as deeply as they're capable of loving / understanding themselves. Therefore their love for you will be very dependent on their level of emotional maturity / inteligence.

Someone can love you to the best of their ability, yet still not be able to concider your feelings, emotions etc. and that´ s because they can´ t do that for themselves either. Whitch is something to concider when it comes to family members.


But when it comes to our romantic relationships or even close friendships we´ ve got much more control over those kind of relatioships, since we choose what kind of people we create(build) these relatioships with. Therefore it´ s important to look for people with a similar level of emotional maturity / inteligence to ours. Because when we form relationships with people who's level of emotional intelligence / maturity is very different to ours, then they often end up unintentionaly hurting us, since we concider them, their feelings, needs etc., but they lack the ability to do the same for us.

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