Coping strategies

The vast majority of dysfunctional patterns of behaviour are simply just coping mechanisms. They are a result of our body having to cope with an unhealthy enviroment and or unmet/neglected needs.

This is very often a result of a damaged relationship with one self.

When individuals have an unhealthy / damaged relationship with themselves, they don´ t understand their needs and therefore cannot fulfill them. Long term unfulfilled needs lead to internal discomfort, causing the need for copng mechanisms, which help to alleviate this sort of discomfort.

Therefore, to eliminate these dysfunctional patterns of behaviour, it is important to understand the root cause of the coping mechanisms (disfunctional patterns of behaviour).

Once we understand what is causing the coping mechanism in the first place, we then can focus on fulfilling the unfulfilled needs, which naturaly eliminates the need for the coping mechanism.

The coping mechanisms typically simulate feelings of love, care, safety, comfort, joy etc. Therefore understanding what unmet needs are causing the lack there of, is the key to eliminate the unhealty coping mechanisms.

Addictions, toxic relationships, dangerous/adrenaline seeking behaviour, eating disorders, people pleasing, perfestionism / extreme selfcriticism, narcisistic tendencys, depression, extreme internal imbalance usually labeled as "bipolar" etc. they all are coping mechanisms. A result of our body trying to deal with unhealthy enviroments and or unfulfilled/neglected needs.

The main thing is, that coping mechanisms are not permenant, and they can be eliminated. The only thing neccesary is to understand what is the coping mechanism helping us to cope with / what need isn´ t being met. Once we understand that, we can work on fulfilling the unfulfilled needs which naturaly eliminates the need for the coping mechanism.