Addiction

18.03.2026
Adiction is a coping mechanism.
It's our body's way of helping us cope with feeligns of discomfort, fear & unhappiness caused by unmet needs. 


Our body always finds a coping mechanisms to deal with unmet needs, one of which is seeking the feelings of ease, comfort, safety and care through products or patterns of behaviour which we then label as all sorts of addictions. Therefore to overcome addictions it's important to understand what is causing the need to self sooth through them.

There are loads of reasons but they all come back to a broken relationship with self and or some sort of external trauma / situation causing the inability to meet the body's needs.

It's important not to punish yourself for the addictions. Many people tend to do that, they end up beating themselves up about it, stirring up feelings of shame and or self hate. But the body is already battling with some sort of negative feelings / state of being which is the root cause of the addiction. Therefore adding more stress, and negative feelings is one of the main things trapping people in the cycle of addiction - feeling bad, reaching for something to make them feel better, then feeling worse and doing it all over again.   


Therefore it's important to focus on understanding yourself rather than punishing yourself. At the end of the day, it's the only thing the body realy needs. Because the lack of understanding and care is what caused the addiction in the first place.

So in order to heal the addiction it's important to understand what sort of needs are not being met and work on fulfiling them. Healing an adiction should be a proces of internal regulation rather than a matter of self discipline.
 

A lot of the people who rely only on self discipline to get over an addiction often just end up becoming addicted to another coping mechanism. 
For example, they stop drinking but then they become addicted to extreme running / excersing that can end up being self destructive as well. Or they stop smoking and start overeating.

Therefore the key is understanding the root cause, which is some sort of unmet needs leading to internal feelings of discomfort, unsafety and unhappiness / unfulfilment.
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